With Vietnam continuing to come into the forefront of expat’s minds, it’s time to do a post about general and interesting observations regarding Vietnamese girls.
As you know if you are a regular reader of this blog, I actually prefer Vietnamese girls to those in Thailand – although I can’t really complain about either of them.
The truth is, the dating culture is drastically different in Vietnam than other countries around Asia, so it’s important to have up-to-date information about the girls you can find here.
Let’s get started! Here are seven interesting observations I’ve made about Vietnamese girls and I am sure you will find them really useful.
#1: An Interesting Blend, Looks-Wise
Vietnamese women have a much different look than many of the other girls in the region generally considered Southeast Asia (The Phils, Thailand, Indonesia, etc.). This is likely because of Vietnam’s large border and close proximity to China.
You’ll find a bit more of the “pretty”, but round, face on Vietnamese girls. In addition, their skin tone tends to swing more towards the lighter side compared to the other SEA countries.
Simply put, you have a bit more of a melting pot genetics-wise in Vietnam.
This is fantastic, because you will have more variation with Vietnamese girls. You’ll be able to find more fair-skinned girls if that’s your thing.
And, they’re on average simply prettier than most other Asian countries. Or at least this is my impression.
#2: Vietnamese Girls Are Far More Conservative
The fact is that Vietnamese are nothing like other Southeast Asian girls when it comes to how quickly they will jump into bed with you.
In fact, they far more resemble Eastern European countries like Ukraine and Russia – where it sometimes takes several dates to get a girl into bed.
That’s nearly unheard of in a place like Thailand.
Even more, some Vietnamese girls even make it very difficult to kiss them on a first date, just like those aforementioned Slavic girls.
Vietnam is a very conservative culture that frowns upon public displays of affections. In my opinion, there is not much of a stigma about girls dating foreigners, fortunately for us.
Most people don’t seem to care yet, and this is likely because Vietnam is a relatively new place for expats to flock to. Give it a few years and you may see more distaste towards the local Vietnamese girls dating foreigners.
But for now, it’s gold!
Back to PDA though.
It’s simply a no-no.
The girls are very conservative. Many of them live with their families until they are at least 20 – many times even above that age. They have curfews they are expected to adhere to.
They are expected to be ladies in public. Pre-marital sex is “forbidden”.
Of course, you know that this just means that girls have to be secretive about it, in reality because most of them are still open minded about this. And you will find – maybe surprisingly – that Vietnamese women are pretty good in bed.
Even though they generally lack in experience (which is really attractive to me, for example), they compensate through their own way of being, their desire to please and do everything with their heart. It’s really cute and beats all the “experts” out there, in my opinion.
In the end, relationships are about genuine feelings and actions and you will rarely find more honest and genuine women than those in Vietnam.
#3: The English Level Is Surprisingly Low
While places like Bangkok are full of Thai women that speak fantastic English, the same cannot be said so for Vietnam.
Vietnam’s economy is still growing and developing. This means that the younger Vietnamese girls are coming from the country villages to the big cities like Saigon and Hanoi.
With this also comes a language barrier that can be difficult to understand. While they learn English in the smaller villages and cities, it doesn’t mean they have practice with it on a day-to-day basis (obviously!).
So you may struggle with some girls who don’t speak English.
Of course, the “easy” solution to this is to just learn Vietnamese.
Easier said than done though, right?
The truth is, just learning a bit of Vietnamese will open some doors for you. Remember what I said about more girls being traditional? This means that they are going to be slightly apprehensive about dating foreigners.
- Do you have long-term plans in ‘Nam, or are you just going to pump and dump her?
- Do you have a genuine interest in her country and culture?
- Do you have an interest in the local language?
Speaking a dozen or so odd words in Vietnamese subconsciously register the correct answers in her mind about those questions.
No sane person without some plans to spend some decent time in Vietnam would start learning the local language – obviously far different than English.
Learning some words along with history shows an interest in the culture. And showing interest in the language actually shows interest in her as a human being (wanting to make her life a bit easier by communicating in her native language).
See what I mean?
The great news is that not many people are going to expect you to learn Vietnamese fluently and you won’t be frowned upon if you don’t speak it or understand the language.
A Vietnamese girl isn’t going to hold that against you. However, being able to speak a couple dozen words puts you in the top 10% of the expat population (and ahead of every non-permanent tourist).
In addition, in the nightlife and daytime pickup scene, opening in Vietnamese gets you bonus points.
#4: They’re Very… Sweet
If I had to sum up Vietnamese girls in just one word, it would be “sweet”. This means that they are simply feminine and warm creatures. They know what makes men happy and make every effort to do so.
It’s very common for Vietnamese girls to bring me small gifts, foods, or drinks that I like. Randomly, on a whim. Not just special occasions.
It’s just something that they like to do. It’s their way of showing affection for you (maybe as a way of making up for the lack of PDA, heh!).
Hopefully you can understand what I mean by genuine and warm. Many Vietnamese girls are just always happy, friendly, and easy to get along with. It’s simple feminine charm that is sometimes lacking in other parts of the world.
It really sets Vietnamese girls apart, and makes them top-notch long-term dating candidates (although not as good as an option for one night stands).
#5: Things Are Changing
As a final observation, things are changing in Vietnam. The country is very quickly becoming more modern and westernized. The clock may be ticking on Vietnam.
Tinder is growing quickly, there are tons of girls utilizing online dating sites like this top one, and the English levels (while poor) are improving.
Things take time to change. Don’t expect Vietnam to switch from a conservative place to a fully open place like Thailand overnight. However, the pieces are there for it to happen.
Give it ten years and a new generation, and you may find Vietnam is Thailand v2.0.
My advice? Get here while you can! You might just find the Vietnamese girl of your dreams – or at least have a lot of great time trying.
PS: If you want to start your hunt for said dream girl, I’d start with Vietnam Cupid.