Kazakhstan women are a beautiful blend of ice-cold Slavic beauties and Asian warmth. You get the best of both worlds—long legs, high cheekbones, and overall beauty of girls from Russia, Ukraine, and other Former Soviet Union states. At the same time, you can get some of the beautiful, tan Asian skin that ages so well.
In short, Kazakhstan women are a real treat. With that being said, Kazakhstan as a whole is a completely off-the-grid experience. It’s a country that is severely underrated by digital nomads. While most of us flock to the warm weather of Thailand, Indonesia, or Vietnam, there is something to be said about exploring an unknown country.
Well, a few things.
#1: It’s awesome, because your foreigner value is sky-high. Girls will be incredibly curious about an American, Brit, or other western guy who has decided to base up in Almaty or Astana. Not so much in Bangkok, Saigon, or Bali.
#2: It can feel almost pioneering. When I traveled to Kazakhstan, and have now begun writing about it, I felt like I was exploring a new frontier for digital nomads and playboys alike. There’s something to be said about being that guy.
#3: It can get lonely. It’s nice to be in large expat hubs, where you can join local groups easily and make new friends who speak the same native tongue. Not so much in Kazakhstan, but—there is an easy solution to this when you’re in Eurasia.
Date some Kazakhstan women.
That’ll fix your loneliness problems right up, I personally guarantee it. So with that being said…let’s get started on diving deeper into Kazakh women. From the dating culture, to the long-term benefits, to the overall experience—it’s all covered in this guide.
10 Things to Know About Kazakhstan Women
#1: It is NOT as Easy as the Rest of Asia
I feel like I need to get this out of the way first. If you’re hoping to get the super-fast and easy sex like you can get in a place like Thailand or the Phils, you need to look elsewhere.
Sure, it can happen. That’s the case anywhere in the world. Even the most strictly non-sexually-liberated countries still house whores.
I will not sit here and tell you that it’s impossible to get a one night stand in Kazakhstan. It most certainly IS possible. But it’s not very likely.
As someone who has seen most of Eastern Europe and Asia, I think it’s important to note that there are huge differences in the overall culture. The weather alone changes things.
In Eastern Europe, the cold winters means that people want to hibernate together. This is why relationships are so important. Girls want someone to cuddle with from November to March when the temperatures are frigid. Those days are better spent by the fire in front of a movie with hot chocolate as opposed to walking around the city.
On the flip side, Southeast Asia is practically on another planet as far as weather. People are always able to go outside. Possible exception being monsoon season, at times.
I’ll admit, this is all just a theory, but I think it holds some value.
The important thing to know is just this: in general, girls from Europe are far more difficult than Asian women for western guys. And in this case, Kazakhstan is far more European than Asian.
This means that Kazakhstan women are not going to come straight to your hotel room “for a swim”. You are not going to have thousands of Tinder matches, or hundreds of messages on online dating.
It’s going to be a bit more work overall, but Kazakhstan girls are 100% worth the effort.
#2: To Succeed, You Must Utilize Any and All Platforms
Kazakhstan culture as a whole is not as open and inviting as many other Asian cultures. They tend to be more of the “Slavic cold”.
This means that if you go out to a bar and someone hears you speaking English, they’re not going to be fascinated and invite you into their group to hang out. And yes, sometimes the Kazakh fellas are protective of the girls. They don’t want outsiders barging in.
This means you have to work a bit harder.
You should be using both Tinder and Russian Cupid.
How far out should you start messaging girls on these platforms?
I would say you should start the process two or three weeks before you’re due to arrive in Kazakhstan. Again, Kazakh girls need a little bit more comfort to come out and meet a stranger from the internet.
Internet dating is not as trendy in Kazakhstan as it is in Thailand, Vietnam, the Philippines, Indonesia, etc. It’s not the “normal” way to meet, so girls will be a bit apprehensive.
That’s why it’s great to start on these platforms at least a few weeks prior to your trip. It will give you time to actually get to know the girls, and they’ll be far more receptive to coming out to meet you for a drink.
#3: What Should You Say?
As I’ve mentioned before, dating abroad is not the same as it is in the west. You do not need a bunch of games, gimmicks, or lines to get Kazakh girls to respond on Tinder and Russian Cupid.
What you do need is genuine confidence and a no-bullshit way of looking at life. She knows why you’re messaging her. She won’t message you back if she’s not intrigued. You can just be a normal and confident fella and you’ll do just fine.
So before I continue, let’s talk about LANGUAGES.
The two official languages of Kazakhstan are Kazakh (duh) and Russian. Most people, especially the younger crowd, are fluent in both.
Let’s put it this way—if you speak some Kazakh to her, she’s going to be pretty impressed. It’s worth it to learn a few basic phrases to goof around with.
However, I would really recommend studying Russian—the benefits are numerous. You can use it in Kazakhstan, Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, and other Eastern European countries. Basically, it’ll serve you far better in most of the world than Kazakh will.
The best part is that she’ll still be impressed with that, too.
Your First Message to Kazakhstan Women Online Should Be…
Something like this works great:
Привет, как дела? Ты говоришь по-английски? 🙂
This translation is quite simple: “Hello, how are you? Do you speak English? :)”
Look, she’ll be impressed that you can at least say that much in Russian as a foreigner. Even more so if you actually copy and paste the Cyrillic out like I did above. You can even use Google Translate to exchange a few more phrases with her in her native language.
It also shows respect.
That you don’t assume she speaks English, and that you take an interest in her home country and culture. This alone will get you much, much farther with Kazakh (and other Slavic) girls than most foreigners.
Contrast this to Southeast Asia where…frankly, it really doesn’t matter.
(To protect your internet privacy in Kazakhstan, make sure you have a VPN. ).
#4: Setting Up The First Date
Assuming you’ve opened her online, and chit-chatted a bit, it’s best to just casually ask for her number. Something like this works very well:
Do you have WhatsApp, or Viber? We can text there 🙂
Like I said, be straightforward and confident with Kazakh girls. If she’s into you, she’ll give it to you and hope that you move the conversation to texting, and then to set up a date. If she’s not into you—guess what—she just won’t respond to that message!
That’s perfect, because now you can move on to better prospects.
It is key to keep this in mind with Kazakh girls—there won’t be so many of them in comparison to dating in Southeast Asia. You are going to have to work harder, but you should also work…smarter. This means letting go of the girls who aren’t making it easy for you to meet.
A little hard to get can be cute. A gigantic pain in the ass is not.
After you text a bit, ask her if she’d like to get a drink with you.
Let’s meet in person and get a drink. What does your schedule look like?
It’s always a bad move to demand a time and place right off the bat. Let her give you a few options. Let’s say she responds that she is free on Tuesday night. You should then follow up with:
Great, let’s meet at ABC Kazakh Bar at 8pm Tuesday night.
She’ll either say yes or no (let’s hope for a yes!), and it’s off to the races. But…what bar should you say in that text?
#5: Where To Go
Simply pick a casual, but nice, bar somewhere near to where you are living. Bonus points if it’s in the center of the city like Astana or Almaty. Like I said, she might be a bit apprehensive. If you pick a well-known venue that she has walked by her entire life, she’s far more likely to feel comfortable with the situation.
When I say casual-but-nice, I mean this: not a dive bar, but not a place that requires a suit.
Kazakhstan women want a man who is going to lead the interaction, so don’t be afraid to make decisions on the venue and time. If she has an issue with either of them, she’ll speak up and let you know. Many girls in this part of the world are quite confident in themselves, too—so they want a very confident man to accompany that—plus their feminine charm.
Make it a place you can wear jeans and a nice shirt or blazer, and a venue where she could wear a dress and heels if she wishes, but wouldn’t feel out of place if she didn’t.
Speaking of clothes…
#6: Kazakh Girls “Bring It”
This is what I absolutely love about dating Kazakhstan girls. They will often show up to that first date in a dress and heels. They doll up to the 9s to meet a total stranger, because that’s just how the culture works.
Girls want to impress a man, and they take great pride in their appearance. You can generally expect Kazakh girls to bring their A-game in regards to fashion, makeup, and keeping themselves in shape.
In fact, you should be very wary of girls in Kazakhstan who don’t uphold high standards of their physical appearance. It shows laziness and a likely unhealthy obsession with western culture, and isn’t that why you traveled all the way to Kazakhstan, anyway—to avoid that?
#7: How to Act On a First Date
Your first date with Kazakhstan women should be kept simple and casual. It’s unlikely she’s going to come home with you for some in-between-the-sheets-fun, so don’t worry too much about pushing hard for it. Of course, this doesn’t mean you can be a pussy. And if she does seem to want to come home with you, you should at least try.
Kazakhstan women respect a man for putting his balls on the line and trying, even if they reject you.
At the beginning of the first date, you really do need to make her comfortable with you. Like I said, Kazakhstan is not a foreigner hotspot. You might very well be her very first date with a foreign guy (you can ask her later on in the date).
You can tell her a bit about yourself. Your story, travels, why you’re in Kazakhstan, and what you like or dislike about her country. Make a few jokes poking fun of your poor Russian or Kazakh language skills. Tell her a story about getting lost.
Don’t hesitate to poke a bit of fun at yourself to give her a chance to laugh and open up to you.
Don’t, under any circumstance, talk about wanting to date in Kazakhstan because you hate dating in the western world, etc. Don’t talk about prostitutes, or anything else that’s too perverted. She knows that you’re probably in Kazakhstan to “sample” some locals. She just doesn’t want to be explicitly told that.
And she definitely doesn’t want to be explicitly told that she’s one of them.
#8: The First Kiss…
…will either be really easy, or really difficult.
Kazakhstan women tend to be straight-up. You’ll know if they like you, or not. So it very well might be that she’s totally feeling the vibe and you have a first kiss with relative ease.
But, a lot of them also like to test you and see how strong of a man you are. Even if she’s really digging you and wants to kiss you, she might resist. A lot. Don’t be surprised if it takes 10, 20, or even 30 (or more) attempts at kissing her before she finally relents.
It’s a test.
She wants to know that you are a MAN who has supreme self confidence. A man who is not phased by rejection. Even many of them. She wants to know that you are unflappable, that you can brush off her rejection and try again a few minutes later.
Yes, it’s really, really bizarre.
A far cry from the western world where a girl on Tinder might actually say to you, “hey you’re hot, want to fuck?”
But trust me when I say this—you just gotta keep going. Keep trying, don’t give up.
As long as she is still there with you, you ARE doing things right (even if you’re been rejected for a kiss 50 times).
As far as trying to seal the deal, if it’s really on—you can bounce her to another venue and then try to get her home from there.
However, it’s also perfectly okay to cut a date off after just an hour or so. Tell her you enjoyed your time with her and give her a kiss on the cheek (if she won’t allow it on the lips). Let her know that you will text her soon, and actually do so.
Pro tip: In countries like Kazakhstan, it’s not a bad idea to tell the girl, “Hey, shoot me a text when you get home.” This is especially true if she lives far out of the city center where she met you.
While some might say this is overbearing, I’ve actually found it to be a very good move. It shows you give a damn about her, and gives a sort of “protection” vibe—which Kazakhstan women find sexy.
#9: If You Didn’t Get Lucky, Then What?
Assuming you didn’t have sex on the first date (and this will usually be the case), don’t panic. Once she texts you that she’s home, tell her thanks and good night.
Then you can hit her up the next day.
Mention something funny that you talked about on your date. For example, if she made fun of your language skills, tell her that you just managed to order for yourself all in Kazakh or Russian. If she responds very receptively, you can keep engaging her for the rest of the day.
If her response is so-so, no need to engage all day.
Then, the day after is a good time to try to set up a second date. Now, the second date can be a bit trickier. You need to ask yourself:
- HOW into me was she?
- Did she let you kiss her? If so, was it just a peck or was there some making out?
- Did she make any mention of cooking for you (many girls will, as a MAJOR hint)
- In general, how “on” did it seem? Do you think she is ready to have sex with you?
Your answers to all of these should dictate what you should set up for a second date. I do have one rule: start the second date in public, in person. Don’t invite her straight over.
So for example, if she had mentioned cooking for you, offer a coffee in the early evening, then go shopping TOGETHER for the ingredients. This gives her an hour or so to re-acquaint herself with you, get comfortable, etc.
I’ve found a proposal like this works well:
Okay, you’re free Tuesday. Let’s meet at 4pm for coffee then we can go to the store for food 🙂
Of course, you don’t want to spook the cat during this afternoon coffee. Don’t be groping her and trying to hard. Lay back, and play cool. If you know she’s coming back with you for a meal, you don’t need to be over-eager.
Option #2: REALLY Short 2nd Date
I love this option as well, because it’s very low investment and practically guarantees that there’s a good chance you’ll end up in bed on the 3rd date.
Basically, you just propose this second date as something very casual. Meeting for a quick coffee, tea, or ice cream in the afternoon. Make it sound like you have business or something else to attend to, but that you want to see her. You’re willing to carve out an hour to do so.
Then, you can literally meet her somewhere (perhaps on her way home from work) for an hour. Have a drink and chat. Remind her how much fun she had on the first date with you. Then say your goodbye, and repeat the after-date texting strategy.
Except, for the third date you can definitely then try to get her back to your apartment after some drinks, or just have her over to cook.
After two dates, she should be quite comfortable with the idea of meeting you at the store (don’t forget the wine!), and then heading to your apartment.
#10: The Most Important Thing to Know About Kazakhstan Women
Is that you should never expect things to work the way that you expect them to. Dating in this part of the world is very different than almost everywhere else.
Things are not going to go your way. You’ll probably screw some dates up. You will make mistakes, but you just have to learn from them. It is a process to immerse yourself with dating Kazakhstan women. A little practice will go a long way.
Keep your head up.
Go for those kisses, multiple times.
And most of all—have fun. That’s why we travel around the world to date foreign beauties like Kazakh girls, after all.
PS: Like I mentioned earlier, Tinder and Russian Cupid are both must-haves for trips to Kazakhstan.