If there’s one thing that will get a man to book a plane ticket to Southeast Asia, it’s the prospect of being able to seduce one, or many, Thai women. They’re beautiful. Feminine. Full of life and fun. And they like foreigners.
In this article, you’ll get a comprehensive guide to everything Thai.
You’ll learn the three options you have to meet Thai women.
You’ll learn about the numerous red flags to watch out for.
You’ll learn how to get laid on the first night.
Let’s say you find one you like—you want to date her, but still see other people. Can you set this up? YES, and I’m going to teach you.
You’ll also learn how to handle Thai women in a relationship (and how to screen for the best one possible).
All that and more is right here in this article. So let’s get started.
How to Seduce Thai Women
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Physical + Personality Introduction
As far as Southeast Asia goes, Thai women are definitely near the cream of the crop. They generally have prettier faces than Pinays. They have golden-brown skin, toned bodies, and a generally good facial structure.
You won’t see too many butter faces around like you would in the Philippines.
But, you do have to watch out for jawlines that are too sharp in the form of Thai ladyboys—more on them in the “red flags” section…
You might ask me what first brought me to Thailand.
Well, my answer is about the same as most expats: hot girls.
And really, they are. Plus, everyone can find something to their taste. Like I mentioned before, most of them have tanned skin, but you’ll also find light-skinned Thai women. You’ll find girls with swimsuit model bodies. Some Thai women have great curves—albeit not as good as Indonesian girls.
No matter what, if you’re coming from the western dating scene full of fatties stuffing their face full of McDonald’s and Starbucks—you’ll be pleasantly surprised. Girls here recognize the power of their beauty. There is no shaming a man because he likes a beautiful women.
Instead, Thai women have the attitude of, “Men like a beautiful women, so I must be beautiful.”
And that is a beautiful thing.
As you probably suspected from the previous sentences, Thai women have extremely pleasant personalities.
Thai people in general tend to be a bit more reserved. You won’t find any Thai women cursing, being overtly loud, or just being a cunt in public. On a date, they are respectful—they leave the smartphones away, give you full eye contact, and generally treat you well.
Contrast this to being on a date with a western girl—you’re fighting her smartphone on the table, all the guys trying to slide into her DMs, and her mom who won’t stop calling her (even though mom knows she’s on a date).
Thai girls are very happy to be feminine, sweet, and submissive. They make great relationship partners, but also like to have fun. In fact, that’s a huge part of the Thai culture—to enjoy life, no matter what.
And that pays off big-time, especially for international playboys.
But, again—this also makes them great partners if it’s something more serious that you want.
Now that you’ve had an introduction to the personalities and physical aspects of Thai girls, let’s move on to where to meet them.
How to Meet Thai Women
As with most places in the world, you’ve got three options as to “how” to meet girls.
- Utilizing online dating methods—there are so many good sites in Thailand—you’ll never run out of girls to date.
- Meet them during the day—whether it be at a university, a coffee shop, or just on the street—Thai girls will be happy to talk to you, provided their English is good enough (more on that later as well)
- Talk to them at night—the nightlife scene in Thailand is big, especially in cities like Bangkok. This can be a great way to find a one-night stand or set up dates for the week, but you do need to use caution (more on that later, too).
In addition, if you have more “permanent” roots in Thailand (as in, more than a month), you’ve also got the option of getting into some social circles. Sometimes it just takes making friends with the right expat.
The guy who has connections in the club.
Or at a language school.
These can be great opportunities to meet Thai women because you already are pre-vetted and pre-screened. This makes the whole, “Why are you in Thailand, are you a sex tourist?” process of dating Thai women much easier.
Just being a friend of a friend’s friend can make all the difference.
But, Thailand is still easy even if you’re starting from ground zero. Certainly don’t let that discourage you.
How to Meet Thai Girls on Short Trips
This section is specifically for those of you who are taking a shorter jaunt to Thailand. Maybe you’ve just got two weeks of vacation to burn. Perhaps you are contemplating a more permanent move.
If you’re doing a trip for less than a month, you absolutely must use online dating (there are how-to guides further down in this article). While you could land with no online dating leads in your phone and still seduce a Thai girl—why take the risk?
It will make you far more comfortable, confident, and attractive in a new foreign country knowing that you have dates lined up as soon as your plane hits the tarmac.
The best rule of thumb is to start messaging girls when you are 2 weeks away from landing in Thailand.
This gives you enough time to message enough girls. Dating is always a numbers game, and you need to make sure you get your reps in! This is also enough time to allow the girls to get to know you a bit and get excited about meeting you.
When you arrive, you also should hit the ground running.
I’m not going to lie—there are some smoking hot girls on Thai Cupid and Thai Friendly. But if you truly want to have your pick of all of the hottest women Thailand has to offer, you should also approach some girls both at night and during the day.
Let’s face it, if you’re a playboy on a short trip—you know the drill. You’re going to be up late partying. You’re going to be nursing a hangover while daygaming. All of this is just part of the fun and experience of a short trip. So embrace it for what it is (and make sure you set up those dates from online to supplement the day and night efforts).
Red Flags of Thai Women
Alright, so now that you’ve learned a little bit about the general philosophies of Thai dating ins and outs, let’s discuss the Thai women you should 100% AVOID.
Let’s be clear, too—there’s a reason I’m writing these down. Both myself and fellow friends have been screwed on more than one occasion, and I’m looking out for you. I hate when people go to Thailand and have a bad experience—and then never return.
There’s nothing more disheartening than to hear a man’s story that he’s unsatisfied with his love life in the western world, but then has a shitty experience in Thailand writes it off, too. Then he just gives up on dating altogether.
While these are genuine concerns regarding Thai girls, with a little bit of common sense you can avoid most, if not all, scams and pitfalls.
So if you’re looking to seduce some sexy Thai girls, watch for…
#1: The “I’m Broke” Red Flag
Common sense dictates that a foreigner probably has more money than the locals in the case of Thailand. In addition, Thailand is more of a traditional dating scene anyway. Generally speaking, you won’t see a Thai girl arguing with her Thai date that she should pay the bill.
Whereas in the west, a girl will argue about that with you because she wants to show that she is strong and independent by making her own money.
(And also hoping that you will ultimately still pay—because if you don’t she’ll then not have sex with you. Sticky situation, eh?)
That attitude doesn’t exist in Thailand. Like I said, the girls like to be feminine and submissive. This means that they are happy to let the man pay, and they use their feminine charm to seduce YOU.
Especially if you are well-off, you can then reasonably be expected to foot the bill for a date with a Thai girl. And that’s perfectly okay.
But some girls take it a bit farther than letting you buy them a bowl of noodles or a coffee. I’m sure you know where I’m going with this…
My grandmother, four cousins, and their GOAT are all very sick! They all will die TOMORROW if they don’t get help!!!
Basically, anything that involves needing money urgently and right away. Walk away from this girl as fast as you can.
Even if someone is truly sick—a self respecting girl knows better than to bring this up on the first date, or ever ask you for money. Until you reach a point where you’re married, you certainly are not and should not be the provider of her family’s medical care.
There is a huge difference between being chivalrous (which is okay) and being a sponsor for medical care. Don’t fall into the trap of the second one.
#2: Thai Bar Girls
I’ve actually written an entire article on Thai bar girls. Click here to check it out.
In short, they’re prostitute-lites. They’ll say they’re in love with you after ten minutes. They’ll gladly let you cum inside them without a hint of objection.
Basically, these girls are full of tricks to get you to give them money, or keep you around. They’ll stop at no costs. It’s all trickery, and it’s obvious to someone on the outside…
But not so obvious to those inside the relationship.
That’s because we are biologically programmed to fall for these kind of things. I’ve seen countless of men come to Thailand and fall in love with a bar girl. It’s not genuine. Anyone from the outside can see she’s using him (and has hit the jackpot), but his dumbass just foots her bills and follows her around like a lost puppy.
A few good blowjobs, a few well-timed “I think I am falling in love with you”, and the next thing you know he’s buying her a house.
Then she’s kicking him out of the house once it’s all secured. And guess what? He has zero retribution. Because he paid in cash, and signed a contract in a foreign language he doesn’t speak—and he did it all without hiring a lawyer who was on his side.
Believe it or not, this happens fairly often. So don’t be one of the guys who falls in love with a bar girl. While she’ll never call herself a prostitute, she is one.
“I work in a bar” means “I take copious amounts of penis inside me for money”—it does NOT mean “I mix margaritas”.
There is your translation, even if you don’t speak Thai.
Stay clear of the bar girls. If you want to fuck one for the hell of it, do what you wish. I won’t fault you for it. But just don’t fall in love.
#3: Thai Ladyboys
Every man’s worst nightmare is to take a hot thing home only to find out that…there is a penis where there is supposed to be a pussy.
Don’t be this guy.
Again, I’ve dedicated an entire article towards helping you avoid this problem, so make sure you give it a read here.
- Look for physical characteristics—large hands, Adam’s apples, height, etc.
- Watch mannerisms carefully—ladyboys can never mimic a real woman’s motions, no matter how hard they try. Especially the hip swaying.
- Too easy—yes, sex in Thailand is easy—but if she is proposing to go back to your hotel or apartment after three minutes, RED FLAG. (Even the sluttiest Thai girls will still make YOU seduce THEM a little bit).
#4: The Ones Who Won’t Meet
This one is pretty simple to spot. If you meet a girl online, but she just doesn’t want to seem to meet—walk away.
If she keeps up the facade for a while, you can rest assured the “I need money” is coming soon. Probably to pay for Grandma’s goat.
Even if that never comes and she wants an “Internet Relationship”, why would you bother? There are millions of hot Thai girls out there who WILL meet you, so don’t waste too much energy on the ones who WON’T.
Alright, so that wraps up the four HUGE red flags of Thai women. Now, let’s move on to some happier topics, shall we?
Comprehensive Guide to Online Dating in Thailand
So, you’re just a few short weeks away from getting on that plane and being surrounded by beautiful Thai women. Congrats!
As far as online dating, there are three platforms I would absolutely recommend:
Should you do more than that? I would NOT.
Yes, there are plenty of other sites that you can use to meet Thai women, but they’re usually not worth the time. On top of that, having too dating sites to manage can get overwhelming. Just too many cooks in the kitchen.
These three options will provide you with plenty of girls to date and seduce, you won’t need any more (as long as you follow the advice in this article).
In fact, I would say that you don’t even need to use all three of them.
Definitely use Tinder, as it’s becoming more popular by the day and is incredibly cheap ($30 or so for six months of the premium plan). You must get Tinder Plus. The unlimited swipes, super likes, and more are a God send.
It’s really simple—change your location prior to going, and start swiping.
- Ensure that you set your search settings to show “Most Recently Active” on top. This makes it more likely you’ll get a match while she’s still online (and you can escalate it quickly).
- If possible, use an auto-swiper. They are constantly falling in and out of favor, and Tinder is trying to crack down on them. But, if you manage to find one that works well—you can utilize it to go through entire cities while you sleep.
- Keep it simple—no need to show abs in the bathroom. Just a genuine picture of you smiling and not looking like a slob is enough.
- Mention where you’re from! And be smart about it. No Thai girl is going to know where Des Moines, Iowa is. Just say “USA”. But, she knows what Los Angeles, New York, and Miami are.
You don’t need to do anything elaborate on Tinder. A simple, “Hi, do you speak English?” will get you an answer 9 out of 10 times. From there, you can share a little bit about your plans in Thailand and ask for her phone number.
For an exception guide that teaches you just about everything you’d need to know about using Tinder, check out this book:
Make sure you tone it down a notch, as it’s written with the intent of dating in the western world. This is Thailand after all, and the girls are going to respond differently.
We’ll go into what to do after you get her phone number, but first let’s discuss…
Thai Cupid & Thai Friendly
I don’t really think you need to utilize both of these sites, especially for a shorter trip. Like I said, information overload. Personally, I prefer Thai Cupid—but your mileage may vary. Make sure you read my Thai Cupid review for the full run-down on how to use it properly.
But, if you want more HOT girls—use both.
Thailand’s online dating scene is the scene of 6s and 7s. But if you want the 8s or 9s, they’re obviously in more limited supply. Using both of these dating sites will allow you to simply interact with a higher QUANTITY of the QUALITY girls. That’s always a good thing.
Thus, you’ll be more likely to get one of these girls out on a date and into bed.
Again, just like Tinder, keep things simple. Swap a few messages and then get her number.
After You’ve Gotten Her Number..
You’ve got her number and moved to a messaging platform other than Tinder, Thai Cupid, or Thai Friendly. Great, you’re that much closer to getting her out on a date.
This is the point where a lot of guys “lose” a girl—they get stuck in messaging purgatory, with no way to escape. Well, there’s a simple solution to it…
Girls always respect a man who goes after what he wants. They find it attractive. So you don’t need to beat around the bush with her. She knows why you messaged her to begin with—you found her attractive and had an interest in meeting, and eventually, seducing her.
So don’t hide your primal, masculine desires.
Instead, chit-chat just a bit. Ask her how her day is. Then, drop this foolproof line:
“You seem like a great girl, let’s meet and have a coffee or drink.”
Just like that, you’ve given her a compliment and asked her out in a direct, straightforward fashion. Best of all, you’ve put the ball 100% in her court.
She either says yes, or she says no.
One of the biggest issues guys have with girls is not putting the onus on the girl to make a decision. You want to meet girls who are enthusiastic about meeting you. You’ve put her on the spot—she either says yes, or no. If she waffles and says something in the middle, she’s likely to lose you. Forever.
When you put someone in that kind of position, it pushes them towards a yes because of the fear of loss.
Is this evil? Hardly.
You are just screening for girls who are the most enthusiastic about meeting you. Those are the best dates, the girls most likely to have sex with you, and the girls you are most likely to have a connection and some compatibility with.
Being a man who values who you spend your time with, as opposed to any random girl, shows that you are valuable and have self esteem. Thai women (well, all women really) find this sexy.
So, she says yes—congrats!
Now, let’s talk about day and night game, and then we’ll transition on what to do on the first date…
Daygame & Nightgame in Thailand
If the thought of stopping a girl on the street has you shaking in your boots—you’re not alone! Many guys out there have struggled with this before, and it’s tough.
But in Thailand, it’s definitely easier.
For starters, you’ll definitely want to be out and about exploring the cities, cafes, and everything else. These are great opportunities to go indirect with cute girls who are near you.
For example, if you’re in a coffee shop and there’s a sexy Thai girl next to you, just ask for her help translating something. Or if she knows the WiFi password. Perhaps even if she has some recommendations for a drink.
It doesn’t have to be this elaborate process of walking around Bangkok for ten hours so you can stop some girls.
In fact, if you want to go that way—take a piece of paper out with you. Write your name and phone number on it, and walk up to girls and just give it to them. You’ll be surprised how often this will work.
Thai girls want to meet foreigners, and you have tremendous value in this part of the world—it’s why the paper method works.
Nightgame in Thailand
This is going to vary based off of which city you’re in. As you’ve undoubtedly heard, Bangkok’s nightlife is legendary. Some of the islands are a crazy time.
But, then you’ve got places like Chiang Mai which are a bit more reserved.
Here are some general nightlife tips that will help you conquer the crazy scene that is Thai nightlife:
- Dress The Part: All girls like a man who is put together. While it can be a bit hot to wear a full-fledged suit…it still never hurt. Even a simple, well-put together blazer, nice dress shoes, and a solid v-neck t-shirt will do wonders. Don’t be the guy who shows up in flip-flops like a typical tourist.
- Get A Bottle: It’s cheaper than it will be anywhere else in the world, and allows you a “home base”.
- Watch For Ladyboys: Duh.
- Watch For Hookers: Duh.
- Consider Coming With Earplugs: Some places are incredibly loud. Add in a language barrier, drunk people tripping over you, and other nightlife obstacles—it’s hard to communicate with a girl (just make sure they’re already in before you start talking—don’t put them in while talking to her, that’s just weird). Wearing earplugs for parts of the night will help keep your hearing intact, make it easier to communicate, and help…
- Your Stamina: Nights go late in Thailand. Be prepared to party until the brink of dawn. Drinking an espresso in the middle of the night (1am) will give you a lot of staying power. Caffeine pills or 5 Hour Energy are a great option that fit into your pockets, too.
As a final note—don’t be afraid to push to take a girl home that night. They respect you for trying—but there is a point where trying too hard is too much. This is also going to be dependent on the situation that she is in, socially.
For example, if she’s out with a group of ten people—she’s not going to go home and fuck you in most cases. She needs to save face with her social group. But, she’ll gladly give you her number
But, if she’s just one with one friend—who she seems close to, and won’t judge her—guess what, you’re in luck my friend. Play your cards right and she’ll probably be riding you by the end of the night.
General Interaction Tips (Day & Night)
Here are some good tips for interacting with girls during the day or night. In no particular order:
Drop the “PUA” Stuff
You don’t need to be overtly cocky, neg a girl, or do any of the other ridiculous things that PUAs do (“Peacocking” being my favorite). While being a bit of an ass definitely is necessary in the west, you’re more likely to scare a girl off in Thailand.
Hell, even the Red Flag Girls I mentioned above will be turned off by this type of silly behavior.
Generally speaking, being a confident, well-presented, and well-spoken man will get you much further with Thai women than any routines, lines, or negs will get you.
Cater Your Talks With Thai Women
Though I said you should steer clear of too many gimmicks, girls in different cities are going to respond differently. For example, girls in Pattaya or Bangkok have probably already met a foreigner before. Especially if you’re hanging out in the expat places.
But, in other cities, it’s possible you may be the first foreigner she has ever interacted with.
You’ll probably need to be a bit more cocky and playful with the girls who are already familiar with foreigners. They’re also more likely to understand sarcasm—plus, some of the general western quirks and dating culture guidelines.
Dating Thai Women
By now, you guys have heard my thoughts that getting a Thai girl over can be as simple as ordering a pizza.
Again, no matter where you meet them (online, day, night), you can keep things simple. Just send her some messages and ask when she’s free. Ask her out to a coffee or a drink. As you get more experience in the Thai dating scene, you’ll likely begin to get more aggressive.
You learn to identify which girls seem receptive to coming straight over “for a swim” versus the girls who might be a little bit more chaste (at least for now).
Deeper Relationships With Thai Girls
Thai women are just fantastic.
They often have their own personalities, interests, and dreams. They will do things to make you feel special, and make it seem that they value you. This is true no matter how long or how little time you are spending time in Thailand.
No matter what, they want you to know that they were happy to have you in their life, no matter how long.
Sure, there are some girls who are “Farang Hunters”—constantly prowling for new foreign guys to bang. You won’t be her first, or last one. But, some of these girls can still be fun for a quick fling.
As you progress into dating a Thai girl on a deeper level, you’ll be amazed at how she treats you.
- Cooks all your favorite Thai meals, whenever you want.
- Asks you to teach her your favorite meals from HOME so she can start cooking them for you (be aware you’ll have to probably modify some ingredients).
- Takes care of all your laundry and domestic needs.
- Tidies up your entire apartment before she leaves.
- Generally…just treats you like a king…
…and I really mean that.
I was very unhappy with the dating scene in the western world, but moving to Thailand changed all of that. It made me realize that there are some great girls still out there in the world. Girls who actually like men.
Girls who want to value a man for being a man, instead of constantly demeaning him.
Girls who understand that a strong man helps make their life easier.
Girls who get that a feminine, sweet woman helps make YOUR life easier.
Thai women understand the beauty of genuine attraction, desire, and mutual respect. No matter if you are searching for a wife, someone to date, or a fling—I’m confident you’ll find it in Thailand.
But be careful.
You just might never return home.
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